Comments on: The New Normal http://www.rheumatoidarthritisguy.com/2009/05/the-new-normal/ Tue, 08 Sep 2015 08:11:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.3.1 By: RA Guy http://www.rheumatoidarthritisguy.com/2009/05/the-new-normal/#comment-237 Mon, 01 Jun 2009 16:07:54 +0000 http://www.rheumatoidarthritisguy.com/?p=2165#comment-237 Millicent, thanks for sharing your personal story. You are a very strong woman.

Laurie, what a wonderful idea – a “me” hour every day. Say hi to the cats (I’m a dog person myself – have three.)

Cathy, thanks for the kind comment.

Jo-Ann, I agree. A therapist I went to a few years always corrected me whenever I used the word “normal”. In the end there really is no normal, no?

Kim H., I couldn’t agree more.

Kali, it couldn’t have been said any better – I posted your comment on the front page.

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By: Kali http://www.rheumatoidarthritisguy.com/2009/05/the-new-normal/#comment-218 Sun, 31 May 2009 02:15:56 +0000 http://www.rheumatoidarthritisguy.com/?p=2165#comment-218 I think that in some ways, a blog is a better coping tool than a private journal.

In a blog, you can get support. Sure, it’s from relative strangers in the anonymity of the web…but still, getting that support, and knowing you have people who watch for your entries…that can be a huge boost.

You also get community. Sometimes we just chat with you in your comments, after all – it’s not always support per se, but it’s being able to have conversations about what your illness does with people who get it.

You get suggestions – sometimes it’s a different way to think, sometimes an aid that might help you.

And finally…at some point, you start getting people willing to give you a little tough love when you’ve earned it. Hopefully, what that means is people who listen to what you’re saying you do and gently telling you when you’re being an idiot. Heaven knows, we all need someone willing to do that. And at least this idiot over here is more willing to listen to other people who’ve been there.

I very much agree with what Kim is saying. We have to de-program ourselves from the idea of what strength, productivity, and moving forward mean, and re-write what those words mean in our lives.

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By: Kim H. http://www.rheumatoidarthritisguy.com/2009/05/the-new-normal/#comment-198 Thu, 28 May 2009 21:57:13 +0000 http://www.rheumatoidarthritisguy.com/?p=2165#comment-198 Honestly, I partly think we have society to blame for the degree to which we engage in forward thinking. We’ve been taught to strive for “The American Dream” (whatever that means for each of us) and to look toward the future.

It’s difficult to teach yourself to live “in the moment.”

But life really can only be lived in its dailyness.

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By: Jo-Ann http://www.rheumatoidarthritisguy.com/2009/05/the-new-normal/#comment-191 Wed, 27 May 2009 17:46:03 +0000 http://www.rheumatoidarthritisguy.com/?p=2165#comment-191 I think that “normal” is highly over-rated. Life is about change, it helps us to appreciate what we have. I completely understand where you are at right now. But try not to project forward because no one knows where that will lead any of us. Energy is a valuable commodity spend it wisely on what you can control.;)

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By: Cathy http://www.rheumatoidarthritisguy.com/2009/05/the-new-normal/#comment-190 Wed, 27 May 2009 16:39:55 +0000 http://www.rheumatoidarthritisguy.com/?p=2165#comment-190 And today you are making a difference in the world by sharing your experiences!

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