On May 15, 2008 the California Supreme Court struck down the state’s existing statutes which limited marriage to opposite-sex couples. The ruling found that “equal respect and dignity” of marriage is a “basic civil right” that cannot be withheld from same-sex couples, that sexual orientation is a protected class like race and gender, and that any classification or discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation is subject to strict scrutiny under the Equal Protection Clause of the California State Constitution.
On August 29, 2008 Rheumatoid Arthritis Guy and his partner of more than eight years were legally married in an outdoor ceremony under a grove of Eucalyptus trees, overlooking the San Francisco Bay. About fifty friends and family attended the ceremony. Afterward, we had a reception at my sister’s residence in Sonoma County. We spent our honeymoon weekend in downtown San Francisco.
One that beautiful day one year ago today, my husband and I committed to take care of one another – for better or for worse. Our combined journey of living with rheumatoid arthritis during this past year is just one more piece of evidence of the vows we took that day, and of the promise we made many years ago when we first became a couple.
On November 8, 2008 the citizens of California voted to revoke the right of same-sex couples to marry. While our marriage license (shown on the bottom right) remains legal, we will not rest until the civil rights struggle to recognize same-sex marriage around the country and around the world is complete.
My husband previously wrote a blog post here, in which he spoke of the caregiver’s perspective of living with rheumatoid arthritis: Voices Of RA: The Caregiver.
Today we will celebrate our first anniversary with a day trip back into this trees. This time around, though, things will be just a little more adventurous! We will drive down the World’s Most Dangerous Road (yes, it really does exist – and this is it!) towards the direction of the Amazon Basin – into a misty, jungle-filled valley.
Flare or not, here I come!
Stay tuned…for the next adventure of Rheumatoid Arthritis Guy!
‘Let’s Work Together’ is the theme for World Arthritis Day 2009. The aim of this project is to provide inspiring pictures of people with rheumatic diseases who have found ways to work, despite of some of the challenges they may face because of their condition.
These positive photo-stories will be used to:
Inspire other people with rheumatic diseases and encourage them to work together with employers and co-workers, as well as the health professionals who treat them, to ensure they are fit for work, able to live independently and contribute to society
Show employers and policy makers the important contribution that people with rheumatic diseases are making to the workforce and society, and to encourage them to create a more accessible work environment for people with rheumatic diseases
Photographs should show a positive image of working with a rheumatic disease, perhaps with a supportive employer, using adapted equipment, or benefitting from a new therapy or treatment. A short accompanying sentence should describe in a few words what’s special about the picture, or why work is important to the person featured.
Yesterday was one of those days in which Rheumatoid Arthritis Guy had to take extra special care of himself.
Throughout the day I took three naps. In the evening I had an aromatherapy session while I listened to relaxing music. In the morning, I kicked things up a notch and tried to ensure that my bath (I haven’t showered in years…sitting down is much easier on my feet and knees) was not only a wonderful start to the day, but that it was also a therapeutic moment during which I could begin to focus some of my thoughts and energies on the healing process which I will once again pass through.
I turned on the hot water – kept the cold tap turned off – and prepared the tub for a Bendetta Seaweed Bath. Once I entered the tub, I treated myself to a mug of Triple Leaf Tea detox tea. The experience was so nice that I spent almost an hour soaking my pains away. With my first goals of the day accomplished, I had all the confidence I needed in order to get through what ended up being another difficult, while at the same time relaxing, day.
Bendetta Seaweed Bath
This amazing bath combines three therapies for a truly indulgent, cleansing experience. Strengthening, calming and detoxifying, this Seaweed Bath is all that and so much more. Our Bath combines the effects of Balneotherapy (bathing in water hot enough as to be therapeutic), Thalassotherapy (therapy from the sea) and the power or Aromatherapy. Seaweeds are known thyroid tonics, aiding the natural processes of the body. This bath will leave your skin silky smooth. Our Bath oil is a blend of strengthening, immune enhancing and antiviral Essential Oils. Combined with the relaxing and purging effects of a hot bath, the union of these three therapies makes this Seaweed Bath a powerful, luxurious treatment.
For thousands of years, the Chinese have been using herbs to clear away toxins. Today, we are exposed to increasing levels of environmental pollutants, smoke, caffeine, food toxins, etc. More than twenty potent Chinese purification herbs have been used to create our Detox Tea. Traditionally, these herbs were used to support the healthy function of the liver, kidneys, lungs and blood, and to cleanse the body of toxins. They were considered to help promote clear, healthy skin, increase the flow of energy (chi) to the body and mind, and promote calmer, more positive and peaceful emotions. Treat yourself to our delicious and effective revitalizing tea on a regular basis. Make periodic cleansings and daily purification a normal part of your regime.