The Blame Game

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Yesterday morning, Rheumatoid Arthritis Guy sat in the bath tub and waited and waited for the water level to rise. (I haven’t taken a shower in years, as I find it so much easier to sit instead of stand.) I couldn’t figure out why the water level was not increasing, as I had already been there for quite a few minutes.

It then dawned on me – I had not placed the plug into the bath tub drain. So simple, I know, but on days when I wake up in pain these little actions that we perform during the day, often without thinking, are often the ones that I overlook the most.

A few minutes later, I was taking my usual bath. I used to kick myself over these “silly” mistakes – how could I possibly do that? Not anymore, though. When I discover that I have overlooked something, I simply work to correct it, without entering into the blame game.

If there is one thing that I have learned while living with arthritis, it has been to be very cautious when it comes to the topic of blame. So often I want to place the blame somewhere for my chronic disease – for all of those times I wake up in excruciating pain, and don’t even get a “breather” before I start my day.

Sometimes, this blame exhibits itself in the wrong way. I snap at those around me. I am in a bad mood. I know this is not an excuse, but I really cannot help it at times. Recently, I have started asked for some space when I wake up and it’s obvious I am in a foul mood. I know that within half an hour I will get over it…but during those thirty minutes I have a hard time not getting angry at the most trivial things.

So I’ll continue to try to think less about “blame”, and think more about how me and those around me can continue to get through the daily challenges that rheumatoid arthritis brings into our lives.

Stay tuned…for the next adventure of Rheumatoid Arthritis Guy!