Comments on: How To Be Sick: Discussion 5 http://www.rheumatoidarthritisguy.com/2012/02/how-to-be-sick-discussion-5/ Thu, 03 Sep 2015 17:55:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.3 By: Toni Bernhard http://www.rheumatoidarthritisguy.com/2012/02/how-to-be-sick-discussion-5/#comment-6257 Sat, 11 Feb 2012 05:20:35 +0000 http://www.rheumatoidarthritisguy.com/2012/02/how-to-be-sick-discussion-5/#comment-6257 Janis – I’m so glad that you used lovingkindness in this way! How brave of you to just go for it. I hope you can learn to send yourself compassion. I like to say that there’s so little in life we have control over but one thing we do control is how we treat ourselves. You’re worthy of your kindness, believe me!

No rush to find your metta phrases. I’m just glad you’re trying these practices.

Warmly,
Toni

]]> By: Janis http://www.rheumatoidarthritisguy.com/2012/02/how-to-be-sick-discussion-5/#comment-6253 Fri, 10 Feb 2012 19:04:53 +0000 http://www.rheumatoidarthritisguy.com/2012/02/how-to-be-sick-discussion-5/#comment-6253 Just this week, Feb. 6 in fact, I found out an opportunity that has meant a lot to me was gone. It was out of my control – the person who made the decision wouldn’t even let me try. It was very painful and still is. But I was reading this section of the book. So I started practicing sending her lovingkindness. It is helping, though I relaspe often.

I’m not so good at sending myself and my body compassion. But I will work on this. And I’m working on equanimity.

I still haven’t found my metta phrases.

Thank you RA Guy for this discussion and especially to Toni for writing the book.

]]> By: Toni Bernhard http://www.rheumatoidarthritisguy.com/2012/02/how-to-be-sick-discussion-5/#comment-6249 Thu, 09 Feb 2012 17:24:26 +0000 http://www.rheumatoidarthritisguy.com/2012/02/how-to-be-sick-discussion-5/#comment-6249 Linda – I love your chosen metta phrases. I’m so sorry that you couldn’t be with your brother. Illness can make our lives so hard. There’s no way around it. That’s why, for me, these practices are so important. They help ease the mental suffering that accompanies this hand we’ve been dealt.

]]> By: Toni Bernhard http://www.rheumatoidarthritisguy.com/2012/02/how-to-be-sick-discussion-5/#comment-6248 Thu, 09 Feb 2012 17:21:26 +0000 http://www.rheumatoidarthritisguy.com/2012/02/how-to-be-sick-discussion-5/#comment-6248 It is very hard to wish well to everyone — especially to those who have hurt you (or stolen from you!). If you can’t do it for a particular person, don’t do it. It’s better to treat yourself kindly for your inability to do it than to berate yourself for it. I can help, with the “difficult person,” to reflect that he or she like you, just wants to be happy (yes, even that thief). I hope you get your car back! Warmly, Toni

]]> By: Jay S http://www.rheumatoidarthritisguy.com/2012/02/how-to-be-sick-discussion-5/#comment-6247 Thu, 09 Feb 2012 15:54:45 +0000 http://www.rheumatoidarthritisguy.com/2012/02/how-to-be-sick-discussion-5/#comment-6247 I knew it would be really hard but last year my wife and I went on a camping trip with a visit to Asheville NC and Atlanta. I knew driving in Atlanta would be really hard for me but we pulled it off. And why were we in Atlanta? To see the Dalai Lama! He spoke at Emory University.

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