Resilience

Resilience in psychology is the positive capacity of people to cope with stress and catastrophe. It also includes the ability to bounce back to homeostasis after a disruption. Thirdly, it can be used to indicate having an adaptive system that uses exposure to stress to provide resistance to future negative events.

Wikipedia: Psychological Resilience

Pick Up SticksI have a feeling at the moment, that if I could bottle it, would be more valuable than gold. Yes, the worst of the flare from the past month does seem to have passed…but it is by no means completely gone. Just this past weekend, after sharing that things were looking up, I was once again beaten up. (I’m not even exaggerating – I was down for the count, and the punches just continued to land…and land…and land.)

I’m not exactly sure what this feeling is, but I think it has something to do with learning how to pick myself back up, time after time. It comes with the realization that when it comes to rheumatoid arthritis, the stumbles that I encounter along my journey are both unpredictable and – to put it quite frankly – unexplainable. Most of all, it comes with the ultimate acceptance that these stumbles are not my fault.

With this understanding, I am able to focus all of my thoughts and energies on the most important thing when I find myself down in the dumps, which is to pick myself back up. I do this with the knowledge that I have absolutely no idea when I will fall again – it could be in an hour, it could be in a week. What I do know is that whenever it happens, I will be ready to pick myself back up. This counts for a lot.

I never though I would say such a thing, but here goes:

The next imminent flare, always lurking around the corner, no longer scares me.

Stay tuned…for the next adventure of Rheumatoid Arthritis Guy!

4 Comments
4 comments
  1. Cathy says:

    Yay for you! I have recently come to the same conclusion. I know they are always around the corner but I am learning to deal with that.

  2. Millicent says:

    I think that acceptance of the situation (but NOT giving in to it) makes you stronger & more able to control your response to adversity. There are many kinds of strength!

  3. Terry says:

    Good to hear that your flare is easing up. WIth me, I think I was scared of flares at first because they were new to me. I didn’t know how long or severe they would be, or if I would get back to feeling good again. I no longer fear flares either, in part I believe, to simply maturing with the disease (7 years now).

    “What I do know is that whenever it happens, I will be ready to pick myself back up. This counts for a lot.” Indeed it does.

  4. Taz says:

    I have been inside of a 16 week flare, with new med on board and still no relief. We just have to keep going. I fear for sitting to long waiting on change would stiffen me so much I would be in fear of not making it to the rest room some daysf! Oy. Fearing the flare itself is what in my opinion, stifles us. I think if we come to accept it is inevitable, we can adapt to most anything thrown our way.

    Excellent blog.
    Taz

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