For Better Or For Worse

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On May 15, 2008 the California Supreme Court struck down the state’s existing statutes which limited marriage to opposite-sex couples. The ruling found that “equal respect and dignity” of marriage is a “basic civil right” that cannot be withheld from same-sex couples, that sexual orientation is a protected class like race and gender, and that any classification or discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation is subject to strict scrutiny under the Equal Protection Clause of the California State Constitution.


On August 29, 2008 Rheumatoid Arthritis Guy and his partner of more than eight years were legally married in an outdoor ceremony under a grove of Eucalyptus trees, overlooking the San Francisco Bay. About fifty friends and family attended the ceremony. Afterward, we had a reception at my sister’s residence in Sonoma County. We spent our honeymoon weekend in downtown San Francisco.

One that beautiful day one year ago today, my husband and I committed to take care of one another – for better or for worse. Our combined journey of living with rheumatoid arthritis during this past year is just one more piece of evidence of the vows we took that day, and of the promise we made many years ago when we first became a couple.

On November 8, 2008 the citizens of California voted to revoke the right of same-sex couples to marry. While our marriage license (shown on the bottom right) remains legal, we will not rest until the civil rights struggle to recognize same-sex marriage around the country and around the world is complete.

My husband previously wrote a blog post here, in which he spoke of the caregiver’s perspective of living with rheumatoid arthritis: Voices Of RA: The Caregiver.

There is also an active conversation going on in the RA Information Library on Marriage/Relationships & RA.

Today we will celebrate our first anniversary  with a day trip back into this trees. This time around, though, things will be just a little more adventurous! We will drive down the World’s Most Dangerous Road (yes, it really does exist – and this is it!) towards the direction of the Amazon Basin – into a misty, jungle-filled valley.

Flare or not, here I come!

Stay tuned…for the next adventure of Rheumatoid Arthritis Guy!